For nearly two decades, my work as a psychological therapist has centred on helping people reconnect with their authentic selves. The essence of this work often lies in guiding clients to be truly honest with themselves—a skill that sounds simple but can be transformative. Honesty with oneself is, in many ways, a superpower, yet it’s one that is often silenced on a societal level. Many of us are taught to prioritise external expectations over our own inner truths, a habit that can leave us feeling disconnected, restricted, and unable to fully understand or embrace who we are.

Therapy becomes a space where people can start to dismantle this conditioning. Through reflection and self-exploration, clients begin to see the ways they’ve internalised others’ expectations, often becoming someone they thought they “should” be rather than who they actually are. In helping people identify and release these internalised and external obstacles, I’ve seen time and again how much freedom and clarity they gain.

Self-honesty isn’t just about seeing yourself clearly; it’s also the foundation of true emotional health. When we’re honest with ourselves, we can acknowledge our emotions, strengths, and areas for growth. This clarity allows us to make choices that genuinely serve our well-being rather than simply fulfilling external standards or fleeting pressures.

Cultivating honesty with oneself isn’t easy—it requires courage, self-compassion, and a willingness to face uncomfortable truths. But for those ready to embrace this journey, the rewards are profound. Therapy is about reclaiming your voice, your needs, and ultimately, your life, free from the weight of unhelpful conditioning. Self-honesty, I believe, is a skill everyone can learn, and it’s one of the most valuable skills for anyone seeking a fulfilled, authentic life.